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#3 • Sarah Quinn

July 11, 2013

This week’s question: Can exes be friends?

This week’s quote: “Why is this so fucking hard?”

Sarah is my actual ex. I asked her (and myself) this question. Things got awkward.

8 Responses

  1. Alice says:

    Ongoing postmortems = perfect!

  2. Vanessa Oakley says:

    this listener is not a 12 year old boy. I am a woman in my 30’s.

  3. Britt says:

    This was an awkward and nice podcast in the most epic kind of way. Keep it up, DeAnne!

    Also, please bring Sarah back again. Postmortem-podcastception should be a thing.

    Plus, Sarah’s accent is beautiful.

    • Andrew says:

      Am I the only person who loved how awkward it was? I felt like I was watching a car crash except it was slowed down like one of those nature films where you can see the bee’s wings flapping… I crave more, like a bear craves honey.

  4. Buddy says:

    Celibacy isn’t that stressful to me anymore. Neither are relationships. This give me some headroom to examine why they used to be.

    Growing up with TV and James Bond and such was bad. The belief that one needs to sleep with a new girl at the end of every adventure is now starting to fade away.

    Falling in love still happens of course. The difference now is that I don’t make a big deal out of it and there is both more calm and more spontaneity in all my relationships. I can see why people might want to be in a couple and not look for any more partners. I even think it might happen to me some day, or at least that it won’t be a deal breaker for the couple I’m part of anymore.

    It was especially interesting when Sarah highlighted the difference between men and women in terms of attachment. I don’t think detachment is a good thing. I think it actually creates stress in the person who doesn’t acknowledge how he feels. I know this from growing up alone with a single dad who never expressed or inquired about emotions.

    To answer your question, though not an absolute rule, the more recent the ex, the more I’m friends with them. The younger I was when I met them, the more the encounter was out of loneliness and the older I was, the more I met them with self-knowledge. In other words, the guy they fell in love with may or may not still exist.

    Anyway, as you mentioned, I was looking for comedy and I ended up with something else. A few years ago I would have cut that podcast short but I’m now at a point in my life where I can enjoy a few minutes of the internet presence of lesbians jerking each other off emotionally, so thank you for this.

  5. Ren Gerecke says:

    I don’t understand how every single one of your podcasts makes me feel so many feelings. Going to have to write a blog post about all of them soon…psyched for the next one!

  6. Jessica says:

    Last 10 minutes…justkiss.jpg

    Seriously…totally hot convo. Just go for it goddamit. 😀

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